Shyness seems to be common problems among men, but there are also women who are shy and inferior. Starting up a conversation or approaching girls becomes nightmare to shy men. The shy man gives the impression of being inferior and less able to succeed and provide for the woman and women feel a certain level of contempt, sometimes overt, but sometimes residing deep at a subconscious level for men like that.
In the ebook "Overcoming Shyness", several symptoms of shyness were highlighted such as exaggerated feeling of excessive anxiety, overwhelming insecurity and terrifying fear of stepping ahead to social bonds. Shyness kept away people from enjoying all the life does offer, from intimate relationships to unforgettable friendships, vacations, friends or reunions.
A shy person thoughts may run from: "I’ll never fit in here, to "What I will say if someone speaks to me?" Ultimately he or she ends any chance for intimate relationships before it even start. SHYNESS not only distracts YOU from having a date, it also cuts to zero number of your close friends and interferes with pursuing YOUR interpersonal and professional GOALS. A shy and hesitant person often gets difficulty in his career and takes time to be in the top, unless he/ she has very special talents or skills.
Is there a way to cope with this kind of inhibitions and procrastination?? The answer is yes.
I found a few things help to take shyness under control:
When starting conversation, just try to talk to a person casually. For a man starting to talk to a woman, talk naturally as if you are completely uninterested romantically.
Put yourself into situations where you would be forced to talk to people. Attend parties of your friends, neighbors, indulge into sports or get involved in group or community activities. This way,you will be able to forced to talk to people, women or men. Select activities that suit your personality and interest to start new conversations.
Join clubs or groups where you can share your thoughts ideas and skills. By doing so, you will have chance to meet other people and talk to them.
Do things that make you feel comfortable. Define your standards. Watch other people around you as often as you can watch for signs that tell you how they feel in your company. The reason for this is for you to make choices too.
Never be afraid to say what you feel or what you like for fear of rejection. There are always good as well as proper ways to do so.
Read jokes, humurous stories that you can use for ice breakers.
Have confidence in yourself. If you genuinely believe that you are desirable, so will everybody else. Don't watch yourself perform. Just do it. Breaking a negative habit by itself will make you more self-confident and desirable person.
Always observe courtesy and watch your language when talking to anybody, especially new acquintances or strangers.
For men.. don't you know that women are programmed to be attracted to strong, assertive, outgoing, and confident men. On the other hand, the shy man looks very wimpy and weak even though he looks a very nice man.
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